Missional Living

The National Study of Youth and Religion, conducted from 2001 to 2005, a study on the religious and spiritual lives of American adolescents. This project resulted in a book called, Souls in Transition: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of Emerging Adults (the ages of college students --18 and 23). It is written by Christian Smith and Patricia Snell. The book deals with questions like these;
How important is religion for young people in America today?
What are the major influences on their developing spiritual lives?
How do their religious beliefs and practices change as young people enter into adulthood?

The book reveals there are six major religious types among the emerging adults:
1. Committed Traditionalists (no more than 15%)
2. Selective Adherents (perhaps 30%)
3. Spiritually Open (about 15%)
4. Religiously Indifferent (at least 25%)
5. Religiously Disconnected (no more than 5%)
6. Irreligious (no more than 10%)

Let me explained a couple of these categories. The Committed Traditionalists are the ones who accept traditional Christian beliefs. But the Selective Adherents “believe and perform certain aspects of their religions but neglect and ignore others.”
They, basically, “pick and choose what they want to accept.” Most often rejected beliefs are traditional views related to sex before marriage, hell, and select doctrines such as the Trinity and the divinity or resurrection of Christ. They pick and choose only those they want to accept. Notice, 30 % of people belong to this group.
For this group, the main idea is that “the absolute authority for every person’s beliefs or actions is his or her own sovereign self.”

The Religiously Indifferent –2nd largest group “neither care to practice religion nor oppose it. They are simply not invested in religion either way. “It just doesn’t matter that much for them.” They are simply careless about religion.

The 3rd Group “Spiritually Open” people are very willing to engage explicitly religious conversations. They are willing to talk about religion, but they are “not taking a lot of initiative in pursuit of the spiritual stuff.
So, if you look at this study, we can see the Selective Adherents (30%) and Religiously Indifferent (at least 25%) make up the majority (55 %). If you add, the Spiritually Open (15%), 75% of the people don’t really care about the truth and authority of Scripture.

This study represents a massive shift taking place in our culture that carries huge ramifications for the outreach strategy of the local church. Traditional churches are committed to events and program and invite “people to come to church.”

At AKPC EM, “Missional Living” means that we are community of believers sent by Jesus to the world to live out the mission of God incarnationally, relationally, and intentionally by integrating our faith into whole spectrum of life.

God sent us out, wherever we are, to bring this message of Christ by living the life He wants us to live. Here is the third key word. We must be intentional about how we live our lives and integrate our faith in every aspects of life to bring this message of Christ. It is not about making programs and events. It is about the people going out and building a healthy and meaningful relationship to show Christ to them through the message of words and good deeds.

Is a child with Down Syndrome worth living?

We need to think about this before answering the question. In my college ministry, students asked me to give seminars on the topics they are interested. abortion is one of the topics. Al Mohler recently wrote an article on aborting babies with Down Syndrome. In the medical community and parents are facing huge moral, ethical, religious issue at hand. We just had a new born baby in July, 2009. During pregnancy, the doctor has given us an option to find out if the unborn child may have a Down Syndrome. We've decided not to find out. Over the resent years, the birth of babies with the Down Syndrome has decreased by 15 %. In the future a simple blood test find out a definitive diagnosis of one of more of the genetic variants of Down syndrome. More parents will receive the testing and will face the choice to abort the baby when the diagnosis suggests the risk of DS in the baby. Dr. Brian Skotko's (expert on DS)research indicating that 92 percent of women who learn they are carrying a baby with Down syndrome choose to abort the pregnancy. "As new tests become available, will babies with Down syndrome slowly disappear?" What does this say about our society's value on human life? Is a child with Down Syndrome worth living? Or, can we celebrate life with the Down Syndrome? Tell me what you think.

Public speaking

It made a good laugh.


Recently I came across the Top 10 Newscaster Bloopers at the Time.com. It is known that public speaking is one of the top fears for the most people. In the video, you can see as the anchor makes mistake one after another, his confidence simply vanished. While watching this video I laugh out loud real hard, but as a pastor preaching week after week, I understand some mistakes speakers make. I watched even a great anchor like Anderson Cooper had a blooper. I have to tell you, there are times when I feel so horribly did preaching, I would like to run and hide. Poor guy, I think I know how he feels.

anger, racism, depravity

Watch this video.


At this point, I don't care how well Serena Williams plays tennis. She showed such poor sportsmanship. In fact, it's not just an issue of sportsmanship, she completely lost herself and anger took control of her. Then I see something beyond not just sportsmanship and anger, but racism. The line judge was happened to be quiet Asian woman with completely reserved response. Serena's reaction toward the line judge was simply not acceptable. It was a death threat, "I will kill you." Even if it was a wrong call, such utterance shouldn't be made from professional athlete. I wonder if Serena Williams would have done and said the same if she was not the quiet Asian woman.

Grace vs. Judgment

Just the other day, I was going on my way to pick up my daughter. But I was there about an hour half early. So, I stopped at the Whataburger and took my Bible out and preparing last week's sermon.
I was eating my meal, meditating and taking notes, then, a few teenage looking guys walked in with their skateboards. One particular guy was wearing a gray tank-top, pretty wet with sweat, wearing a black baseball cap, and a red bandanna around the cap. Because it is a tank top, I could see hair stinking out in his armpit. Passing by him to get a refill, man, the armpit smell was just killing me.
I yelled at him, “put a T-shirt on,” actually I did that in my thinking. Then I observed him. during my stay at the restaurant, he was in and out taking breaks from skateboarding. He asked for a cup for water and drank water, and then some iced tea.
I realized than, I was ready to make some judgment on him in my thought. Then I asked to myself, “Why do we judge other so quickly?”

We pass judgment on others based on the style of clothes, the manner of speech, and the life experiences. People tend to be judgmental toward those who are different from them, those with different background, culture, and life-style.

According to the Unchristian, Christianity has an image problem: Non-church people from age 16—29 perceive the Christians as 1) anti-homosexual (91%) 2) judgmental (87 %), and hypocritical (85%). They see that Christians judge and ostracize others who are different from them.
We love grace. Grace is so attractive to many of us. We long for it. We anticipate it. We want to experience it. We want to taste grace. There is something about grace that we are drawn to it. Grace has this magnetic power that attracts us and amazes us. Jesus who did not condemn the woman who was caught in adultery is so gracious and attractive.

Indentiy or legitimacy in ministry?

Yesterday, I briefly tuned in the Nine Conference online where many presenters gave a short talks. For that brief moment of time, I listened to Skye who is an editor of the Leadership Journal, a Christianity Today publication. I thought he said something insightful. Often we hear question about the leadership and why it doesn't succeed. Is it because lack of strategy or low energy and motivation. What Skye said rings true to me. From reading somewhere, 70 % of pastors deals with feelings of inadequacy. I think one of the reason is that Leaders often compare with other leaders, particularly with influence and success stories. One measure of success is obviously number. pastors ask, "how big is your church?" So what happens is that pastors and Christian leaders equate success (number of people or influence leverage) with legitimacy of ministry. If a Christian leader who does not have strong influence on large number of people then his/her ministry (I am thinking small group leader, Bible study teacher, pastor of small church...) seems not legitimate. Often leadership is defined "influence." however, what I see is that some leaders are so bound by pressure to succeed often in resulted in number. Skye points out that outcome of ministry is not something that we create. We are called to abandon the outcome to the Lord. God is One who makes our ministry grow. We plant the seed and water it, then God causes it to grow. The legitimacy our ministry comes from ourselves as children of God. It is the identity issue, "Who am I?" If we are rooted in Christ as sons and daughters of God, then the power, strength, and motivation come from Him.

Funniest conversation

During our car ride our kids in the back always playing, talking, sometimes hitting each other. This is recent playtime between Isaiah and Ellie. They were playing a spelling game. Ellie had a list of spelling words for her class (it must have been her old paper in the 1st grade).
Isaiah goes,
Nuna, can you spell "Look?"
Ellie spells out, in reply, it is "l-o-o-k."

Isaiah asked her again, spell "whore."

While driving, we are thinking to ourselves, "what!" "how does he know this word?" But we didn't interrupt.

Ellie goes, "what is "whore?""
must be thinking to herself it must not be in the list.
"Whore," what's whore?"

Isaiah responds, "you know nuna, "whore," "h-o-u-r."
Ellie goes, "ohh, you mean "(h)our.""

It was a moment of good laugh.

By the way, kids learn so fast, especially what big brothers and sisters and adults do and say. Those of us around the little kids watch our words and deeds.

An ordinary guy can start a movement!

watch this video.

Future, Investment, it's backward.

What's wrong with policymakers? Cosby cries out "Stop cutting School funding!" Isn't what we have learned that education is the future of a nature?" I found it to be very wrong that it costs less than $5,000 a year to educate a young person but $33,000 a year to incarcerate someone. This is so backward. Many young people, who has not been invested and cared for due to many reasons, cutting school funding being one reason, end up being in jail, taxpayer's money spent when they are incarcerated. Just today, I read USA today, school budget cuts shut down sports. I can see that some schools spend way too much funding on sports. Our children need to on the field and something to do. Coming form youth ministry experience, far too many children are sitting in front of computer, not being able to develop interpersonal skills face to face, not to mention, exercising, lack in social activity. I am aware of that our young people have different ways of social networking through facebook and twitter. I believe that interaction with others face to face is needed. Anyway, issue that I see is that kids don't get opportunities because of cutting school funding, not invested in their education, end up in jail. And more fund is spent when they are in jail than in school. This is so backward. Where is investment for our students, the future? We adults must get involved in and invest into our children' lives.

Student Leadership

I love being at our college group leadership retreat. We had leadership retreat in the past three years. Every year, it gets better. A few things about the leadership meeting is that students open their eyes and see something beyond what they are used to see. I believe they see the potential they can be and grasp the vision that they can invest their energy and time.

In the first year of our leadership retreat, which was not used to them, I mainly challenged them with what is expected from leaders. Leaders must learn and grow in order to lead others. I believe in old saying, "if you stop growing today, you stop teaching (leading) tomorrow." Whether a leader like it or not, leaders are expected to lead. For leaders, in fact much are expected and demanded, in the aspects of spirituality, conduct, and lifestyle.

In the second year, I challenged our student leader to face the real issues in ministry. We had hours and hours of discussion talking about the issues of our ministry.

In this year, one of my main focus was to provide them perspectives. The perspectives of the leaders. At one conference I learned something so crucial about leadership perspective. At leadership conferences, a few main talks are always on the significance of the character of leader and on the leadership skills. One crucial perspective of leader is confident understanding of who I am, what I am serving, and where I am I going.

Coming back and engaging in ministry after the leadership retreat, I can see and feel the the energy and passion our student leaders bring into the ministry. I am so grateful form them. Now I hope to see in our ministry seasoned maturity of our leaders that lays strong foundation. My prayer is that our leaders raise the bars of maturity, expectancy, and resilience.

A few weeks ago, I went to KASE conference and had a conversation with a friend. We were talking about ministry, especially doing ministry at Korean church. Conversation was more of my venting out some painful experiences. Personally, my experience and observation about the church tells me that basically many churches are unhealthy. Church being unhealthy I mean Christians hurt and burnt by judgementalism (condemning others), legalism, religious elitism (too many modern say Pharisees), hypocricy, pretence, self-centerness (not caring the community--lack of ministry of mercy and compassion and social justice), I have far too many people experienced negativity in the church. Since that conversation, I have been thinking about my vision for the healthy church. I tend to think that the healthy church is marked by its transparency and authenticity. People need to be who they are, not pretending someone they are not. I like the concept of the "no perfect people allowed." It is creating a culture where sinners come as they are, they don't have to change anything to come to church. The Christ following community must be patiently wait and accept the people with respect and love. However, we hope that as they come and hear the gospel and attract to Gospel, they don't stay as they are, but transformation takes places over time in the environment where they are accepted and loved and challenged by the gospel itself. Church need to be a place where outrageous generosity of God practiced. A healthy church is also marked by three main ministries that Jesus had done; preaching of the good news, teaching, and healing the sick. Most churches has been at least emphasized the aspect of preaching teaching ministry. However, ministry of healing the sick, which includes feeding the hungry, visiting the prisoners, setting free the oppressed and bringing social justice on earth.

Cost of Riasing kid vs. its Joy

Raising a kid to age of 17 --before college costs $221,000. I have four children and it is going to be about a million dollars. Jeremiah was born about 6 weeks ago, and these day my wife and I are sleep deprived. I had a conversation with a church member about having kids. He was saying that having kids are good, but what comes with is a big of challenge; of course financial challenges, whole deal of raising infant--lack of sleep, carrying a diaper bag, crying.... what some people around me are saying is that they want to have kids, but they don;t want to go through those challenges. I tend to think that life itself is a challenge. Though at times it is tough to raise kids, but it is a huge blessing and pleasure to be a father. As I see my kids growing up, playing with them, I am indeed grateful to the Lord for such blessing.

My Children

I love outdoor activities. Over the years here at poughkeepise area I have enjoyed apple picking, sledding on the hill behind our home, trip to Game Farm (which closed down this year 2006) and so on. so, here are some pictures.

I still find myself struggling in acceptance of His love. In fact, I preached about embracing God's grace a couple weeks ago. This morning I simply prayed that God would show and tell me that He loves me. I know full well in my knowledge that God is love and He loves me. I also know that I don't solely depend on my feeling. But I wasn't feeling it today so I prayed for His love, which will motivate me, excite me, and compells me for the ministry. In the midst of prayer, He reminded me of incident happened with Ellie yesterday. My daughter Ellie has this learned behavior of cleaning with wipe, she thinks it's fun. Anyway, she had this wet paper towel and wiping on my laptop.
As soon as I noticed her, I kind of yelled at her not to wipe on computer. I think I scared her, she cried and it was somewhat uncontrollable. I told her that it's OK. But she was clinging unto her Mom and cried and cried. I told her to come to me and I wanted to embrace her and calm her down. But she was too afaid of me to approch. At that moment all I wanted from her was that she would trust me and know that I love her. In the same way, I sensed that God wants me to trust Him for His love for me.
Doesn't love need to be trusted to be experienced in the first place? Love is experienced when trusted, even when I wronged and offended God who offers love.

my family 

enjoying family

I had this week off. I guess it is like a vacation, but we haven't gone any places other than shopping here and there and eating out. This week has been great so far, spending time with family. We went bowling on Monday, Ellie and Isaiah really enjoyed it. On Tuesday, we went down to New Jersey and shopped at IKEA, ate at Korean restaurant, and went Korean grocery store. Today, my wife and I decide to make calendar for gifts to our family members so we looked at family pictures taken past couple years. It was a joy and laughter to look at those pictures. Thank God for the family.

Now I am thinking, "why is it so hard to take some time and enjoy family and life?" ministry, class, laziness.... It should a part of discipline to enjoy some other things than work and ministry.

Ellie and Isaiah

 

at Billy Graham's Crusade in NY 2005

my family at the top of Bear Mt.

A few important lessons I have learned...

Yesterday I had a servant student leader meeting. we had a time of reflection. One of the reflection tools was this. list some things you have learned from the Bible.

I reflected and wrote down these...

Perseverance (resilient life): Apostle Paul often describes Christian life as ruing a race with goal. This race (journey towrad God) is a not like a splinter, rather like a marathon. It is a hard race. it requires steadiness, endurance and perseverance. There are up hills and down hills, straight path and curves. The same is in ministry and journey toward God. I choose to be resilient in those challenging moments, especially when life and ministry get tough.

Love is choice, and hate is also a choice: given the fact that not everyone is lovable, I encounter people I have hard time loving. Especailly in ministry, I get to meet someone gives me heatache, frustration, and hurt. love is a choice and hate is a choice. I will choose to love as much as I can.

Proactive: Paul said in Philippians, "don't let yourself be intimidated by anything." This is a spirit of proactiveness. I also learned this from "Seven Habits of Higly Effective People" by Steven Covey. We have a freedom of choice in any situations. We choose to respond any situations and circumstances, positively or negatively. This power of positive choice in response to any accurance is called responsibility or proactivity. Responsibity is also a conbined words response - ability. Let me quote some words of Eleanor Roosebelt and Gandy from the book, " no one can hurt you without your consent." "They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them. Do not let yourself to be intimidated by anything! Choose to repond positively!